You may have read recently how Jimmy Kimmel’s wife, Molly McNearney who works as a producer and writer on her husband’s late-night show, admitted to being raised “in a very conservative, Republican household.” So when Trump was elected in 2016, though disappointed, she felt she could “understand it.” Regarding Trump’s second term, she’s not so understanding.
“It hurts me so much because of the personal relationship I now have where my husband is out there fighting this man,” McNearney said on the Nov. 6 episode of “We Can Do Hard Things” podcast. “To me, them [family members] voting for Trump is them not voting for my husband and me and our family,” she added, revealing that she had “unfortunately … lost relationships with people in my family because of it.”
She continued in the podcast, “I’ve sent many emails to family, like right before the election saying, ‘I’m begging you. Here’s the 10 reasons not to vote for this guy. Please don’t.’ And I either got ignored by 90% of them or got truly insane responses from a few. It’s definitely caused a strain.”
“I’ve definitely pulled in closer with the family that I feel more aligned with. And I hate that this has happened, you know? It feels silly. You know, part of me goes, ‘Don’t let politics get in the way.’ But to me, this isn’t politics. It’s truly values,” she explained. “And we just were not aligned anymore.” Read more of the interview here.
Actually, in that last sentence she hit on the division that has arisen between Republicans and Democrats or progressive Democrat Socialists. It truly is opposing “values” of good versus evil.
Taking Trump out of the discussion for a moment, let’s look at the atheistic godless values on the left: sacrificially killing babies in the womb, sexually indoctrinating young children in school, sexual mutilation of children, gender confusion, open borders, men in women’s sports, men pretending they’re women, gay marriage, legalizing and accepting sexual perversion, soft on crime, defunding the police, and so many more WOKE anti-God values that Christian conservatives unequivocally cannot and should not align with.
McNearney is correct, left and right values are definitely not the same. But notice she referred to the responses she received from her conservative relatives as “insane.” While McNearney didn’t admit to Trump Derangement Syndrome, she has the symptoms when she’s letting politics not only divide her family, but essentially disowning them because they don’t agree with her. Is this making her feel any better? She admits it isn’t.
“I feel like I’m kind of in constant conflict and I’m angry all the time, which isn’t healthy at all,” McNearney continued. “But I personalize everything now. When I see these terrible stories every day, I’m immediately mad at certain aunts, uncles, cousins who put him [Trump] in power. And it’s really hard.”
She’s not alone. When political views become thicker than family ties, it’s heartbreaking and feeds into Satan’s goal of disintegrating and dismantling the family.
Last year, a liberal extended family member was surprised we were celebrating a family Thanksgiving after the election. She had heard the ludicrous propaganda that families and friends with differing political views shouldn’t celebrate Thanksgiving together?! She believed this outrageous proclamation as fact and surveys show she’s not alone. A quarter of Americans said they were canceling Thanksgiving plans over political clashes. Pathetic and tragic.
Much of the mistruths, lies, and gaslighting coming from the liberal side of the aisle work to divide friends and families instead of uniting them around the things they do agree on like loving your family and heritage regardless of political or faith beliefs. Family ties should be stronger than politics and God tells us to love those who don’t agree with us, even though we don’t always love their actions, values, or beliefs. As Christians, we don’t cut them off, we show them the love of Christ, which we definitely can’t do if we don’t still strive for a personal relationship with them. Even when our values conflict, we still show them love.
I imagine many of you are having similar concerns and conversations this Thanksgiving. I remember my mom cautioning that if you want to keep the peace, don’t talk about religion or politics. As a kid, I never understood that warning. Believers are supposed to tell everyone about Jesus. Since being a Christian is our first identity . . . how could we not talk about our Savior? Likewise, if we’re happy about political policies that align with our faith and beliefs, then we shouldn’t have to stifle our joy.
I’m bold about my first role in life: being a born-again Christian. All other roles come second. As I wrote in Forsaken God? Remembering the Goodness of God Our Culture Has Forgotten, “Bold doesn’t mean obnoxious. It simply means not being afraid to speak the truth, even in the face of adversity: ‘Therefore, since we have such a hope, we are very bold’ (2 Cor. 3:12).”
For I fully expect and hope that I will never be ashamed, but that I will continue to be bold for Christ, as I have been in the past. And I trust that my life will bring honor to Christ, whether I live or die. Philippians 1:20 NLT
Absolutely, we’re having another joyous Thanksgiving celebration this year with whoever is there. We have much to be thankful for beyond politics. So yes, I’ll be making my famous sweet potatoes for those who love them. And I’ll bring my legacy Thanksgiving tablecloth, which you’ll read about at the end of this article. We won’t let political or faith differences prevent us from giving praise, glory, and thanks to our Lord and Savior for another year of life together.
Daily, not just at Thanksgiving, my husband and I pray beseeching God to prepare us to be a light in the darkness . . . not to avoid the darkness because that would be the coward’s way out . . . but to help us respond as if Jesus was standing behind us speaking through us. You’ve all been in situations where it seemed like Satan was standing behind or speaking through the other person. So how can we let Jesus reflect through us? Granted, some might not recognize Jesus . . . but they’ll see there’s something different about us.
14 Ways to Maintain Peace and Joy on Thanksgiving
As I prayed and talked to the Lord about family political and faith differences, here’s some scriptural ways to keep the peace. I’ll admit it’s not always easy and I definitely haven’t mastered them all. I’d love to hear your ideas too.
- Don’t worry what to say—“Whenever you are arrested and brought to trial, do not worry beforehand about what to say. Just say whatever is given you at the time, for it is not you speaking, but the Holy Spirit.” Mark 13:11 (Jesus was talking to his disciples if they were arrested, but I think it could apply to us too if we felt our faith or political beliefs was being tested or put on trial.)
- Speak kind words—“Kind words are like honey— sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” Pr. 16:24 NLT
- Strive for peace—“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Romans 12:18
- Don’t instigate or respond to antagonistic discussions—“Interfering in someone else’s argument is as foolish as yanking a dog’s ears.” Pr. 26:17 NLT
- Play with children present—“We will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the Lord, about his power and his mighty wonders.” Ps. 78:4 NLT
- Don’t drink—“Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit.” Ephesians 5:18 NLT
- Smile, Smile, Smile—“Fix my eyes on God— soon I’ll be praising again. He puts a smile on my face. He’s my God.” Psalm 42:5 The Message
- Listen—“Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others.” Pr. 12:15 NLT
- Take a deep breath and think before you speak—“There is more hope for a fool than for someone who speaks without thinking.” Pr. 29:20 NLT
- Less is more—“The more words you speak, the less they mean. So what good are they?” Ecc. 6:11 NLT “A time to be quiet and a time to speak.” Ecc. 3:7 NLT
- Pray mind prayers. — “Pray continually” 1 Thess. 5:17
- Have a sign or word with others that signals — Change the subject if the conversation gets heated or move into another room. “Twoare better than one, because they have a good return for their labor.” Ecc. 4:9
- If you’re hosting—Thank God for each guest. Pray over your home and each chair at the table. Pray as you normally would at the meal, your guests know they’re coming to a Christian home. “Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling” 1 Peter 4:9
- If you’re a guest—As you approach the home, pray to be a blessing. If your hosts don’t pray before the meal, offer to give a blessing. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Gal. 5:22-23
Thanksgiving is a day for harmony and focusing on God. Giving Him thanks and praise in whatever way He leads. Fiction writers have a saying: “Show don’t tell.” You don’t always have to speak Jesus with your words. Show Him with your actions. People will want what you have!
Enter his gates with thanksgiving; go into his courts with praise. Give thanks to him and praise his name. Psalm 100:4 NLT
I do give thanks for each of you who follow me on this Monday Morning Blog. I pray you have a joyful, peaceful, and God-filled Thanksgiving Day.
Thanksgiving Legacy Tablecloth Idea
In Forsaken God? Remembering the Goodness of God Our Culture Has Forgotten, I share how to use your Thanksgiving tablecloth as a conversation piece and a way to make memories for generations to come. Here’s an excerpt from the book. I hope it gives you some ideas. I’ll be taking our Thankful Tablecloth with us this Thanksgiving to my daughter’s house. My grandchildren love to look back at their tiny handprints and drawings when they were toddlers and the comments written over twenty-three years.
When my breast cancer journey started, I became keenly aware of making memories with my family. At times like that, you think seriously about your mortality and the legacy you want to leave with your loved ones. You appreciate each new day of life. The sun rising every morning is an act of God to celebrate.
Holidays like Thanksgiving have new meaning. Typically, Thanksgiving is a celebration where family and friends gather for a feast, and everyone says what they’re thankful for in the past year. But after finishing the dishes and putting away the leftovers, how many really remember what everyone said?
The Thanksgiving following my first breast cancer surgery in 2002, I had an idea of a Thankful Tablecloth. I purchased a Thanksgiving themed tablecloth with plenty of white space and a box of wash-resistant colored markers. After Thanksgiving dinner, I brought out the markers and asked everyone—kids included—to find a spot on the tablecloth to write what they were thankful for that year, sign, and date it. We traced handprints for the tiny ones with their name and age.
Today, we have years of thankful messages to read every Thanksgiving and remember the many acts of God’s goodness to us and the people who joined us at the celebration table each year. If we go to someone’s house for Thanksgiving dinner, I ask if I can bring our Thankful Tablecloth and markers. When I go to be with the Lord, I pray my family will continue bringing out the Thanksgiving Tablecloth as a reminder through the generations of how good God has been to our family and friends.

Opening Photo by Stephanie Klepacki on Unsplash
Have a blessed Thanksgiving. There won’t be a Monday Morning Blog Thanksgiving week and I might not be regular every Monday morning in December
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